I am a proud Dog Mom

Being a mother doesn’t mean being related to someone by blood. It means LOVING someone UNCONDITIONALLY and with your WHOLE HEART. Being a dog mom isn’t an easy job, but it is definitely the best job anyone can do. And I am blessed that in this lifetime I got an opportunity to be a Mom to two wonderful dogs – Casper and Junior.

Being a dog mom is the best gift of my life. My dogs gave me a reason to live and smile every day. I am in love with my children (fur babies) who were not born from me, but FOR ME. Yes, this is absolutely true. Casper and Junior literally gave me a reason to keep living, and not just living; but thriving. Had it not been for my dogs, then I would have been in deep depression or probably wouldn’t be alive.

Everything I know about my life, I learnt from my dogs. Predominantly; living in the present. Just like them. There are many people who try to correct me by saying that I am a pet owner and not a pet parent. For me, I emotionally see myself as a Dog Mom to my fur babies. My life revolves around them. I spend most of my free time with my dogs.

I own many things, such as furniture, car, house, clothes, jewellery, etc., but I don’t have this type of emotional attachment to those objects as I have for my dogs. Though Casper is no more, but I still consider him my baby even in the present, and will do so in the future. I don’t have human children, and probably would not even in the future. I chose my dogs as my family and children.

My dogs are my responsibility, and a large part of my life. Much of my time and energy is spent in caring for, nourishing, and engaging my kids. They sleep in my bed and eat off my plate. I believe I know what’s best for my dogs. No one knows their needs and desire better than me. It is just not my duty and responsibility to care for them, but as a mother, my utmost priority.

It is often said, “Diamonds are a girl’s best friends”. But my best friends are dogs. My dogs have given me the best days of my life. And also one of the worst day; when Casper died. I laughed with him for all his life. And now I cry in his memories for all my life. However, I was proud back then, and I am proud even today that I was a Mom to such a beautiful soul. On the other hand, I still have Junior who has kept me going after Casper. He makes me laugh with his funny tactics, he gives the sloppy kisses, he is the warmest blanket for me in winters, and he is my anti-depressant.

My life feels so fulfilled and satisfying. People think I am stuck with a dog to take care of, and I cannot enjoy my life. According to them, the meaning of enjoying life is going out clubbing, partying, socializing, etc. What they do not understand is, I am already living a cheerful and adventurous life with my dogs. I also socialise with the right people who understand the importance of dogs in our lives. And trust me, there are many. I have made more friends who are dog lovers than what I had made when I didn’t have any dogs.

Dogs are our link to paradise. They know no evil or jealousy or discontent. Living in a metropolitan city, I have a dream to sit with Junior on a mountain top, enjoy the view, and just live in the moment. To experience the time what my dog experiences everyday – live in the present.

My life with my dogs has been a blissful journey. A journey which started unexpectedly and made me explore those parts of me which I didn’t even know that existed. The Accidental Dog Mom who is now a Proud Dog Mom. A girl who is recognized by her dogs, a girl who’s loved ones knows her dogs are her priority, and a girl whose life was saved by her dogs. My dogs are my babies. I cannot find the words to explain how much having my dogs in my life means to me, but I do know that without my dogs my world would be empty and dark.   

Nourishment

It was my parents wedding anniversary, and we decided to celebrate it at home with some delicacies. Blue pea rice, coconut curry, dhoklas, vada pav, misal pav and homemade cake.
Lunch plate – Oondhiyo, cauliflower sabzi, whole turmeric, roti, salad and dal.
Curry noodles and garlic bread
Hot chocolate brownie
Masala kulcha
Chole
Weekend lunch – vada pav and masala tea
Authentic and nutritious gujarati dinner – khichadi

Misuse of Social Media

The misuse of Social Media

These days’ social media platforms are being more misused than used. And the biggest misuse with social media is “Defamation”. Social Media have become increasingly popular in our day to day lives. Social Media connects people regardless of the geographical boundaries. It is a medium of communication which enables people to interact, share and exchange information, pictures, videos, etc. It also keeps us updated with people’s lives and what’s happening around the world.

Social Media can be used for many good reasons. But many people have chosen to use it otherwise. There are many misuses of Social Media like false and unreliable information, sexual predators, cyber crimes, loss of privacy, show off, bullying, etc. But today, I would specifically want to speak about “Defamation”.

In simple words, Defamation means attacking another’s reputation by a false publication. Negative statements about people or companies appear frequently on various social media sites. This has been creating a menace these days. By just one defamatory post or comment or picture, many evildoers ruin a company’s or a person’s year’s old image and hard work in one go for their selfish motives.

Often times, people slander someone’s image to increase their own popularity on Social Media or cry victim or when they didn’t get what they wanted from that company or person. There can be many other reasons, but personally I have come across these three reasons majorly.

Recently I came across a “so called” educated lady who was verbally bashing a young watchman who apparently wouldn’t allow her to park her car in front of the building gate. Before the watchman could even react to her polished abuses, she clicked his picture without his permission and threatened to upload it on social media sites claiming he didn’t have the sense of talking to a woman.

On another occasion, when I was standing in the queue for Covid Vaccination, the doctors time and again announced that they have only a particular company’s vaccine available for that day, and if anyone wanted the other vaccine, they could come the other day. Not just announcement, this information was also put up on the board right at the entrance so that no one would miss out on reading it. But as soon as it was a particular lady’s turn to get the vaccine, she threw a tantrum as to why the other vaccine was not available and blamed the doctors to waste her time. She did the same thing, clicked the doctor’s picture without their permission and threatened to upload it on social media.

There was a fresh incident that had happened, where an influencer ordered for her food from a food delivery app. But for some reason she got violent and started hitting the delivery boy and in defence he tried to protect himself which in turn hurt the influencer. But she put up a completely false claim video on Social Media accusing the delivery boy and the food delivery app, claiming that the boy hit her.

As we are all aware of the #MeToo movement that had happened worldwide; how many were genuine and how many were not will always remain a mystery. But the problem here is; the genuine victims get hidden behind many fallacious motive people, which in turn lead to the actual victims not getting justice or delayed justice many a times. There have been many men also who uploads a woman’s picture to shame her just because they didn’t get what they wanted. This shakes the entire character of the woman for life.

I have also read about many hotels and restaurants time and again giving statements about being fed up with some influencers asking for free food or free stay in turn of posting a picture on their handles or writing a good review. When the hotels or restaurants deny their offer, these influencers post ugly or negative reviews just because they didn’t get what they wanted.

I am not saying everyone is bad on Social Media. The above are just a few examples which I have come across, and some that I have experienced personally. There are legal remedies also available for such rotten headed people who play the victim card, but are actually the villains. And many even opt to take those remedies that have been badly affected by those false claims.

However, there are many who just suck it up and let go, as they do not have the time and energy to spend behind taking legal actions. In these stressful times, where the world is already going through a lot, along with personal tragedies and grievances, some people leave no stone unturned to increase their popularity on Social Media or get things for free.

These “so called” educated people behave as they maintain all laws & orders, they are the most obedient human beings on Earth and they can get away by threatening to upload pictures on Social Media. Population of such kind of wicket people have increased so much in the past few years, that they have corrupted Social Media and damaged so many people’s lives and images. Social Media has made it easier to misuse the right of freedom of speech and expression by many individuals. There is should be extremely strict curbs and management before this dinosaur turns into a Jurassic Park.

I cook, I eat, and I enjoy.

Dal and Potato Pancake
Spinach Noodles
Thread Paneer
Maggie Noodles and Ginger Tea
My Dad’s birthday celebration
Old age should look like this. When I paint 🎨
I am an annoying Mumma 😁
Oldies relaxing
He wants to have coffee 🤣

Anxiety

We all have heard and read about Anxiety a lot before, but do we really know what it is? As you all must have noticed that I haven’t posted any blog post in a month; it’s because my anxiety had worsened. What triggered my anxiety? Health!

This phrase “Health Is Wealth” is something we have been hearing since childhood. But exactly last month on this date I truly understood its meaning. My parents were diagnosed with COVID-19, inspite of being double vaccinated. What was worse, my mother recovered, but my father slipped into COVID complications. I thought, “How could this be happening? My parents are vaccinated. At the worse, they can have mild symptoms; it cannot flare up so much!” But it did happen. My father’s symptoms and post COVID recovery was terrible because he has some underlying disease. What opened my eyes was, if he was not vaccinated, he would have not survived. The vaccine actually saved my parents life. They were a breakthrough case, but somewhat mild.

Since I already suffer from anxiety since years; my mind made me think the worst case scenario. What made me insufferable was; Junior too falling ill at the same time. And not just sick, his health was grave. Junior got a UTI (E. Coli) which affected his Bladder and Kidneys, and he started urinating blood, vomiting and stopped eating.

I was in a fix, as I was in self isolation because I had met my parents’ everyday when they tested positive for Corona virus. I had no option. I got myself tested for Corona Virus, I tested negative and got out of the house on the 10th day of self isolation. I had to save Junior. Being a responsible human being, I informed my Vet about the same, maintained social distancing and wore a mask at all times even though I tested negative. I also retested myself on the 14th day and tested negative again. I was relieved. But my anxiety had already started playing its part.

For the first time in my life, I realised that Anxiety is not just a mental illness, but it also affects you physically. Besides being continuously anxious about my Dad’s and Junior’s health, following were my physical symptoms:

  1. Sweating a lot
  2. Breathlessness
  3. Short breaths
  4. Low oxygen (but recovered quickly)
  5. Fluctuating body temperature
  6. Sore throat
  7. Heavy head
  8. Panic attacks
  9. Fatigue
  10. Stomach cramps
  11. Severe acidity
  12. Blurry vision
  13. Less concentration
  14. Irritation
  15. Hot and cold flashes
  16. Racing heartbeats

I faced all of the above 24/7 for the entire month.

Aimlessly I kept looking for solutions on the Internet for a remedy to reduce my anxiety. I tried going to the gym, did yoga, did meditation, journaling, did breathing exercises, spoke to close ones, went for a walk, etc etc etc. Nothing helped for the long run. All these were temporary solutions. I stopped going to office for work, I stopped cooking, I stopped painting, I stopped answering phone calls, and many other things. My entire concentration was on my Father’s and Junior’s health. One thing good that I did was; I removed Google from my phone. Google only increased my fear and flared my anxiety.

What I have learnt from this dreaded experience is “HEALTH IS WEALTH”; whether it is physical or mental. Money, dating, house, cars, partying, etc. All of these come later. It also taught me to take care of my health (physical and mental) from now on so that when I am old, I do not face the consequences what my father faced. My mother is relatively healthy and had no side effects or dreaded symptoms because of the virus. She recovered in no time. But my father went through a tough time. This horrible time also showed me the true faces of people whom I called family and friends. However, some family members and friends stood by us rock solid and I am grateful to them.

Today my father and Junior both are out of the danger zone and on the road to recovery. So am I, from my anxiety. From now on, I am not just going to be physically healthy (which I already am), but will also work on a long term solution to manage my anxiety. This experience also made me change my priorities in life in a good way. I wish and pray for everyone’s good health and happy living.