Adulthood

Those were the days when we used to wait to be adults, thinking we can do our own things without asking permission from our parents. No restrictions, live life to the fullest, party, dating, etc. were all the things on our mind believing adult life is the best.

It turns out; adulating is a lot harder than it looks. You know, I am genuinely scared of all the things we have to do as adults. Finding jobs, finding love, finding out whether the love we have found is perfect for us, having good social media accounts, clicking pictures rather than living in the moment, etc. are some of the everyday things that are way too real than what we see in the movies.

Into the bargain, taking our parents to the hospitals, dealing with death, heartbreaks, trauma, loss and agony are the worse things we have to deal with. We always forget that as we are growing, our parents are also becoming old. After a period of time, we start losing our loved ones every year. The ones whom we used to admire when we were small kids and fantasy to have a life like them.

Besides all of this, we often have to take major or big decisions like getting married or not, having children or no, joining a company or no, resigning from a job, buying a house, etc. This is the time we realise we were better off as kids only. The only decision we had to take that time was to choose the colour of the dress or water bottle.

Doing things for love, or doing things out of love, we are always dreading ourselves. Every single day we are living in fight or flight mode. Never finding anything good enough! Are we living life to the fullest or just living?

And then, sometimes everything hits you all at once. You lose a relationship, suddenly change jobs, old friends leave, bills are due and savings have drained due to a pandemic or some illness or wrong investment, and you have to deal with all this on your own. It’s up one day and down the next. You have it all together on Monday, and by Thursday you do not have a god damn clue. Adulthood is realizing life is one big wave and all we can do is flow, grow and adapt.

It’s only sometimes when we see others going through the same things, we realize how despite being different from one another, there is something in the universe that holds us all together. And that for us, on some days, is enough to lean on.

I am not sure how many times life challenges us, but if there is one thing I have learnt, it’s that in the face of fear, bravery emerges. Let’s rest our minds knowing that what will be, will be. We don’t need to over think the how and when. Let’s be at ease by trusting and allowing ourselves to breathe through the uncertainty knowing that things will eventually become clear. Because this is what our adults did when were kids. Because true adulthood is understanding that the only constant in life is change.

No one else has the time to look out for us. They are busy looking out for themselves. So save money, eat healthy, and get good enough sleep. No one else is going to make sure we are those things. You are the captain of your own ship. Sail it through the waves. And for God’s sake, please do not compare your life with others, whether through social media, friend circle, family, or any other source. By all means, remember – we are all dealing with the same devil, but at different levels.