I cook, I eat, and I enjoy.

Dal and Potato Pancake
Spinach Noodles
Thread Paneer
Maggie Noodles and Ginger Tea
My Dad’s birthday celebration
Old age should look like this. When I paint 🎨
I am an annoying Mumma 😁
Oldies relaxing
He wants to have coffee 🤣

Codependency

Legitimately, there are so many new words I heard and learnt in the past 4 years that it is unbelievable how our generation and the younger generation has complicated, wasted and made the beautiful term “LOVE” meaningless. Besides ghosting, gaslighting, narcissist, talking stage, etc., codependency is just another word that I learnt.

Now what is codependency? In simple words, it means where a person is needy, or dependent upon another person. Basically, clingy. In a relationship, one person is so addicted to the other, that their life doesn’t function normally without the presence of the other person. In a crux, it is actually an unhealthy relationship.

But here, I mainly want to talk about codependent dogs. Yes, I learnt this word after interacting with a Vet. And to understand it better, I read through some articles on the internet and realized this has become very common these days in a relationship.

I had recently gone to the Vet as we are in the process of changing Junior’s medicated food to normal food. He relatively had less patients that day and was free to talk to me. He shared some not so surprising facts with me about the 2 major issues dogs faced in the lockdown – anxiety and obesity.

Obesity was because of the restrictions during the lockdown and the fear of coming in contact with the virus if humans walked their dogs in public. So most of the dog parents over fed their dogs with treats and crumbs to keep them entertained or not to disturb them when they were on a work call or in short, when they were working from home.

The other problem was, anxiety that the dogs faced was because outdoor activities were limited, socializing was a strict no and every walk was atleast 6 feet away from any kind of interaction with other dogs and humans. Because of the pandemic, the humans stayed home 24/7, which means, it was a party for the dogs. For them, there is nothing better than being with their humans’ day and night for months together. Unfortunately, this in due course resulted to codependency. The dogs became completely reliant on their humans for every minute of their day.

You probably would think, “how cute, my dog follows me everywhere. Aww, he/she loves me so much.” But in reality, your dog has forgotten to grasp the concept of having space, and their dependency could be making them a nervous wreck. They have now become so afraid when you leave the house or are not there at home that they become ecstatic when you come home. Their tails are wagging frantically, they start jumping on you and sometimes, even the house is a mess.

For most of us this is a normal behavior, irrespective of the pandemic. But the difference is, now it has become difficult for the dog to be on their own after we have spent months with them and started suffering from anxiety.

So, how do you know the difference between cuteness and codependency? Here are some signs to check in your dog:

  • Barking more than normal
  • Jumping a lot
  • Howling
  • Peeing on the floor
  • Destroying things at home
  • Following you from room to room
  • Nipping on people who gets close to them
  • Over possessive about their humans
  • Head bobbing
  • Become a little aggressive
  • Eats only after you feed them

These are some signs to look for. If you can relate to some or all of the above, then your dog is completely dependent on you and may develop anxiety if not corrected soon.

When I had relocated to a new apartment, Junior faced codependency for a few days as the place was new. But since I knew it was a temporary phase till he got adjusted, I just let him be. But codependency can turn into a permanent problem for the dogs with the little lives that they have.

Allow me to share some suggestions/tips to help your dog and you through it. But first, let me once again bring light to the fact that their clinginess may look cute, but being responsible dog parents, we have to help them be mentally independent just like how we would for human kids. Here are some tips when they behave to gummy:

  • Pet them less
  • Ignore them when they are wanting too much attention
  • Make sure they sleep or have plenty of things to do when you leave home
  • Be strict on their sleeping time
  • Slowly and steadily start taking them to dog parks and socialize with other dogs (now that the lockdowns have eased all over the world)
  • Even when you are home, send them to their favourite space as time out. Basically, less dog-parent interaction
  • Burn their energy
  • Stimulate their mind with mental games

Let me inform you, sometimes, the way one partner is dependent on the other partner, even humans can be dependent on their dogs. Like some humans cannot sleep without their dog by their side, or some call the day care 10 times to know how their dog is doing, many won’t go on holidays or dates without their dogs, and even if they do, their only topic to talk about is their dog! Either way, codependency is not healthy. For the betterment of everyone living under one roof and the dog, start being honest with yourself. Learn to have a life of your own and also help your dog become healthy mentally.

Can you smell what this blogger is cooking?

Cooked a few dishes this week, but they were ultra delicious.

Baba Ghanush and Pita Bread. It was the best Pita Bread I have ever made….in my second attempt 😜
Pita Bread
Vegetable Stir Fry
Mixed Vegetables Gravy
Potato Cheese Paratha. So filling and finger licking.
Because this is what matters…….Love, Peace and Happiness! When I paint 😊
It’s all about comfort
Gloomy days are all about sleeping
I am the crazy accidental dog mom 😁

Gloomy Week 😷

In Mumbai, it has been raining heavily from the past 3 days, because of which I couldn’t take Junior for a walk. I tried giving him his required exercise and burnt his energy at home only as much as I could. However, we still had a fun week.

The featured image is of sweet and tangy Risotto.

This combination is an age old combination and the best one when it is raining. Masala Chai and Pakoras. It literally changes your mood from gloomy to energetic.
Made Paneer Tikka. Since I do not have a tandoor, I marinated this for 2 hours and then cooked in the oven.
Homemade Hummus and Pita Bread. I made Pita Bread for the first time in my life. And it turned out to be good (that’s what people said 😜)
Made a Bengal Gram Paratha loaded with veggies and flaxseed.
Painted this as an expression for love. Every place is the right place to love ❤️
Can you see this cute boy’s tipsy torvey teef!!!
The whole bed is empty, but he still prefers sleeping on the floor and display his weird soul 🤣

Whatta a Week 😜

Let me take you through my activities in the past week, obviously, apart from the boring routine 😁

Made a mug cake using Wheat Flour, Sugar, Oil and Baking Soda. Heated it for 2 minutes and Boom! It was ready. Decorated it with Chocolate Ice Cream and some M&Ms. Super quick, easy and tasty.
When it is raining outside and you are cosy in your house, this meal is heaven.
When I paint 😊
He missed every throw 😆
See where the treat is, and where he aims 🤣
Isn’t he cute!

Happy lil’ week 😊

What I cooked last week.

Stuffed Paratha with Paneer and Cheese. And cooked garlic butter. Super delicious and filling.
Chole. Chickpeas in onion tomato gravy and wholesome spices. Protein filled dish to be had with puri or bhatura.
They always wait for us, don’t they? I painted this on Casper’s birthday (17th June). Waiting for me from the other side.
My cuddle partner ❤️
We are made and mad for eachother 💕

Dog Neutering.

I come across many pet parents who are confused about spaying or neutering their dogs. First, let us understand the difference between spay and neuter. Spaying is removing the ovaries and uterus of a female dog, and neutering is removing the testicles of a male dog. It is a veterinary procedure that requires minimal hospitalization.

In this post, I will be mainly talking about neutering as I have male dogs and would like to share my experience and opinion about it. As I mentioned before, pet parents are usually confused, or at times even unaware, whether to neuter their dogs. In my professional opinion, not only as a dog mom or a former animal activist, but also as an animal lover, neutering dogs is always a good option.

“The big snip,” as some people call it, provides many health benefits beyond making sure dogs do not become puppy daddies. Neutering can cut the risk of certain diseases, unwanted behaviours, and conflicts with other dogs. In all ways, this is 100% true through personal experience.

Partners in crime…always together.

When I had only Casper, I did not get him neutered earlier as I wanted to get him mated. As many of you will agree, Labradors as young dogs are extremely hyper. Casper was a handful for me to handle all alone, specially in public. Eventually I got him mated four times and in total he had 22 puppies. When I had gone to pick Junior up (Casper’s son), I was shocked to see the condition the bitch and the puppies were living in. While it was not terrible, it wasn’t exactly good either. It was a litter of 8 puppies; all of them where been given for adoption. Majority of the families were inexperienced, first time pet owners who did not really understand the responsibility that comes along with taking a pet in your home. This was an eye opener for me and the very same day I decided to neuter Casper. Coincidently Junior was returned three times after adoption (story mentioned in my previous blogs) and eventually I ended up adopting him (best decision of my life), my Vet suggested to neuter Casper immediately. The reason was, so that two male dogs with an age gap do not end up into a nasty fight.

Honestly, I was a little scared at first to let Casper go under the knife, predominantly because at that time, I was not completely aware of the benefits of neutering. But soon after Casper recovered from the surgery, he was a changed dog. He was much calmer and out of the blue, a very obedient dog. His walks became like a piece of cake for me as he had stopped pulling or getting excited. By no means I am saying he had become dull. What I mean is, from a hyper dog, he had become a cool harmonious dog. Seeing this, after some months I got Junior neutered too and got the same good results. The vet told me to keep a check on their weight; with the right balance of exercise, food and getting their energy burnt, they were always in the perfect weight segment.

Always stuck to each other.

Apart from behavioural changes, there are many other benefits of neutering your dog.

  • It eliminates the occurrence of testicular cancer
  • Neutered dogs are not sexually frustrated! Infact, animals become sexually frustrated when responsible pet owners do not permit them to mate and satisfy those hormonally driven urges. Without testosterone, these urges are not present, and the animals are more likely to focus their attention on their human family rather than on reproduction
  • Neutering markedly reduces the incidence of benign hyperplasia of the prostate gland, prostatitis, and perineal hernias in dogs
  • It reduces the number of unwanted litter where the poor puppies are sold or given up for adoption to just anyone
  • It also helps a dog live a healthier, longer life, and they may reduce behavioural issues. Neutered dogs are generally less aggressive
  • It is almost a risk-free surgery and not very expensive

But, but, but … as we know, not everyone thinks this way. Some pet parents that I have come across have extremely different views, which, at times, leaves me flabbergasted! Sharing some of the most common reasons I have heard from pet parents for not neutering their pets:

  • I have heard some say, “I cannot see my baby in pain.”

No one can, but this is a painless surgery. And post-surgery also the dog is not in pain and practically gets back to his routine in no time.

  • I have heard this a few times, “How can you take away what God has given!”

What they fail to realize is by neutering, I am only ensuring an accident free and healthy long life for my dog!

  • One specific person had once told me, “Mating is a natural process for which I will not get him neutered.”

Believe it or not, his dog is 4+ years old now and till date he has not got his dog mated. His dog humps on everyone he meets and is barking all the time out of sexual frustration.

  • The best one I have heard till date, and I just have to share, “There are not benefits of neutering. All these are vet created to earn more money from surgeries.”

Honestly, to people so blinded with their own judgements and refusing to listen to scientifically proven expert advices, all I can say is “No Comments!”

As per my personal experience with my dogs, I would like to conclude this blog by saying, “Spay or Neuter your dogs.” My dogs are extremely well behaved, ideal body weight, healthy and happy.

Eat, play, sleep, repeat!

We sparkled every single day 😊

Another picture gallery of all the fun Mumma and Baby had in the lockdown.

The featured picture is of Quinoa made in Tomato Puree. Healthy, delicious and filling. Yum!

Onion Rawa Dosa made from Semolina, Rice Flour, Onions and Green Chillies. It is super easy, super fast and super tasty.
Cottage Cheese Enchiladas. The sauce is homemade and the filling is of Paneer and White Sauce. It’s not a typical Enchilada, but I tried something different and it turned out to be too good.
A vegetable to be had with Rotis made with Bell Peppers and Gram Flour. Another quick and delicious dish to make.
Another Sabzi made with Potatoes and Lady Fingers. This is my all time favourite dish to eat with Chapati.
Painted a colourful rainy evening couple.
Made this handsome baby Goofy’s portrait in Oil Pastels as a gift for a friend. This baby is no more. But always in our hearts ❤️
It takes 4 muscular men to get Junior’s nails cut 🤣
Post nail cutting, he sleeps in his all time favourite weird position. But sleeps like baby as he has lost all his energy in resisting nail cutting.
Then Mumma had to pamper him and remind him that he is always a good day 😍

I’m Im’Paw’sable :)

A dog is the only thing on Earth that loves you more than he loves himself. We have all read and heard this before. But have you thought what he must be thinking throughout the day? Now that I am spending 24 hours with him because of the lockdown, I got pretty curious and tried to interpret his thoughts in my way. You always know what a dog is thinking. It has four moods. Happy, sad, cross, and concentrating.

4.30am: (Alarm rings) Mumma wake up. It’s time to feed me.

4.31am: (Mumma still trying to open her eyes) You are already a minute late. Wake up and give me food.

4.35am: Ok Mumma, you have 30 seconds to freshen up and then take me for a walk.

4.45am: (On walk)

  • Oh! These car tyres look interesting. I should smell all of them and pee on one of them.
  • The stray dogs are fighting. I should participate and show them who the king is.
  • This human is walking close to us; I think he wants to play with me. I should jump on him and let him know that I too am interested in playing. (Ignores Mom and her instructions throughout the walk)
  • Every day I feel Mumma has changed my name to “stop that” or “what’s in your mouth”.

5.15am: (Back home) That was a good walk. I am tired and should sleep now. I have a long day to go to help Mumma in her routine. She cannot do anything without me. (Starts snoring in 10 seconds)

9.00am: My bowl won’t fill itself Mumma. Pour in my breakfast. (Finishes his food in 0.5 seconds and sits in the kitchen staring at Mom)

  • Do you think an active handsome good boy like me is appeased in the crumbs that you feed me?
  • (Mom gives a Carrot and sits to have her Tea. Junior finishes the Carrot in 0.3 seconds and sits in front of Mumma). Feed me that biscuit you are having. I hope you know that sharing is caring.

9.30am to 5.00pm: Mumma is leaving the room where I am in. I think I should follow her. She might need some help.

  • Mumma got up again. Maybe we are going on some adventure.
  • Someone is at the door. I should run first before Mumma opens the door and protect her.
  • Mumma is using the toilet. I should join her. She doesn’t like being alone.
  • The room is cold. Mumma must be shivering. I should sleep on her and leave 3/4th bed empty.
  • Mumma is watching TV. I should aimlessly stare at her. Maybe she will feel pity on me and give me a snack.
  • Something smells good. I should sit right next to Mumma while she eats her lunch and drool so that when she accidently drops something, it directly falls into my mouth.
  • Why is Mumma hugging me every 30 minutes? I am not a baby. I am a grown up boy. I feel embarrassed. (Comes and sleeps on Mumma’s lap whenever she is sitting on the couch)
  • I just drank all the water in the bowl a minute ago. When I came back, it was full again. Is the bowl haunted?

5.00pm: Yay! It’s time for my third official meal of the day. I am so excited.

5.30pm: (Brings toy) C’mon lazy bones. Move your ass and play tug-of-war with me. Let me show you who rules this house. (Plays tirelessly for 20 minutes)

6.00pm: (Mumma is doing Yoga) She needs assistance. I should be as close to her as I can. What if she falls while doing her exercise? (30 minutes exercise turns into 45 minutes, extra 15 minutes to move Junior from the mat)

7.00pm: Thank God the maids are not allowed in this lockdown. Or else Mumma would never learn to do her own work. (Mumma is sweeping and brooming). Wow! Mumma just cleaned this spot. I should walk over it and see how it feels. (Dirties the place again)

7.30pm: Oh no! My last meal of the day. Doesn’t Mumma understand? Four meals are not enough for me. She keeps telling me I will become fat if I eat more. But look at me. I am dying of hunger. These humans have no feelings at all. But I will continue giving her puppy eyes till she ply’s in and gives me 10 meals a day. After all, where there is a will, there is a way.

8.00pm: (Mumma is cooking dinner) I should sit in the kitchen even though it is hot there. My Mumma needs supervision or else she will cook everything and will not have pity on me to feed me some potatoes or cheese.

8.30pm: Look at this selfish human. Having dinner alone without even offering me anything! I need a lawyer. Or can someone come forward and adopt her?

9.00pm: I am done for the day. I am super tired after assisting Mumma all day long. She is sitting with her laptop/art book to work/paint. I should sleep right behind her chair, just incase she needs my help again. (Sleeps with all four legs sticking out in the air and snoring loud)

10.00pm: Mumma is on a video call with her family. I should be a party to it and let everyone know that she is mine.

11.00pm: Mumma has finished all her work and calling me in the bedroom to sleep. I will give a deaf ear till she personally comes out, picks me up and takes me in the room. I work hard. I deserve this pampering and attention. In return, she will get some wet kisses from me.

It was a beautiful day. Mumma and Baby sleeping soundlessly! All’s Well That Ends Well! After all, it’s not what we have in life, but who we have in our lives that matters.