The answer is, the truth almost always sets us free. … The amount of truth you must tell to any given person depends on how much healthy intimacy you want with that person. The more intimate you want a relationship to be, the more truth you must tell. It’s that simple.
I do not encourage telling lies. But there are times, when telling a lie will be less harmful than telling the truth. Read me out. I am not inspiring anyone to tell a lie. But telling the truth all the time can sometimes be taken for granted from your significant other. I also believe, my partner doesn’t need to know every moment of mine or every minute of the day as to what I am doing or where I am going. I will not lie if he asks, but I may not tell him everything either. As far as I am not cheating and there is great level of trust and respect between us, he has no reason to know everything I do. However, this is called having personal space. But many misuse it to show their dominance or to over power you. It is always good to set boundries and kae it known from the beginning.
When you know you can totally trust your partner, it removes a large potential for worry. It also builds your internal security so that you not only feel good about your partner, but you also feel better about life. Having an honest relationship creates a kind of buffer between you and the difficulties of the world. Having a mate you can trust and rely on also makes it easier to take those risks that help us grow.
Many people feel that little white lies, which may spare their partner some grief, are okay, and in some cases that’s true. When asked about what qualities they want in a partner, most people will list “honesty” among them. Unfortunately, most of us have had the experience of being lied to. When you have a relationship and a family, you need to know that everyone is on the same page, and this is hard to do unless both of you are being honest.
As much as honesty and telling the truth is important in a relationship, “brutal honesty” can do more damage than good. It can be misinterpretted and hurt your partner’s feelings. I also believe, honesty isn’t always the best policy in some circumstances, whether the opposite person is your romantic partner, parents, siblings, friends or collegues.
How many of us have heard from our parents that “everything is fine”, when infact their life is falling apart. How many of us have heard from our friends or sibligs that “I have got the job or I have passed the exam”, when infact it was the other way around and they lied only to keep the other person happy. These are lies we tell all the time for the benefit of others, and sometimes the neccesity of life.
Let’s talk about romantic relationships specifically. Does the truth always set people free? Or can it be a huge, crazy-making pain? If I want to lie a little to get along, am I betraying my authentic self? This is a dilemma we all face virtually every day, whether we articulate it or not. The answer is, the truth almost always sets us free. But not all situations demand the same level of openness. We face a contradiction between our need for honest relationships and the temptation to lie about our failings, desires, and pain.
Tell your partner as much truth as you can. Because relationships are built on trust. If the foundation is weak, the entire relationship will crumble down in no time. If there is no trust, there is no love, and if there is no love, there is no respect. Such relationships are meaningless. You always have a choice, so choose to tell the truth.
But sometimes, it is better in some situation to not tell the truth. Probably everybody would agree that telling the truth is the right thing to do. However, sometimes there is only a fine line between being honest and being rude or being polite and lying. Telling the truth may not be socially acceptable in every situation. In my view, it can sometimes be wiser and more socially acceptable not to frankly tell the truth to everybody.
First of all, we can damage our own reputation and goals with perfect honesty at all times. For example, it may not be a good idea to criticize your partner in public or draw attention to your own mistakes. In both cases it may be more intelligent to avoid commenting on the subject than telling the truth.
Furthermore, unconditional frankness may hurt your partner’s feelings. Our truthful comments may be considered impolite or offending. Even in a close relationship speaking the truth can come across as discouraging and lead to conflicts.
In conclusion, telling the truth can be a bad choice for us and other people in some situations. It can be more socially acceptable to not give an opinion or even lie. Certainly, this finding should not be used as an excuse to lie in general. It is all about finding the delicate balance between being honest and being rude.